Disruption of the Integrity of the Child's Self
The obvious conclusion is that deprivation and conflictual
object relations in the oral stage affected the
child in such a way that he lost his inner core. Early experiences of
frustration and abandonment, lack of attunement and adequate
support, or intrusiveness and hostility, disrupt the
integrity of the child's
self in such a way that he loses his connection to his core. This
loss of core is the specific narcissistic disruption... This
inquiry takes the
student back to his earliest experiences, especially with his
mother. He finds himself dealing with his early
life experiences, with the question of maternal care, with his real hunger and its frustrations, with his oral need for
love, warmth, holding, and safety. He confronts the effects of early deprivation, physical and emotional abandonment, inattunement to his
needs, and intrusiveness into his field of experience. He experiences the
wounding the, the
betrayal, the rage, the hunger, and finally the
emptiness. It is a specific
narcissistic emptiness, a gnawing and dry emptiness... This empty
shell does not reveal itself until he goes deeper into
understanding the hungry and empty self. Then he
will experience himself as an empty bag, a flaccid, empty stomach sack.