Loss of Support and Lack of Identity
Thus there are two
aspects of the
experience of narcissistic vulnerability: The first involves a sense of lack or
loss of
support; the other, loss,
weakness, or lack of
identity. The
student experiences the loss of external support as a weakness of a certain kind. He may feel as if his bones are getting soft and losing
strength and solidity, and hence cannot support him. He may feel spineless or that his backbone is soft or brittle. He may feel that his legs are weak and unable to support his weight, or they feel small and skinny, or soft and mushy. He may feel small, helpless and unable to support himself, or structureless and amorphous like a jellyfish.